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thank you so much for this Faine. ♥️

Feeling defeated and demoralized is something human beings regularly feel. Personally, professionally, any context. But man, its a foundational adult skill to deal with that before making it somebody else's problem. Feel like social media has damaged that particular skillset.

Yes!

Good advice. Do something!!

I think you're right *and* I think if one sees someone crashing out about everything that's going on and has the bandwidth to shore them up, they should. Not everyone is prepared for this fight yet and giving people a little grace and a reason not to despair is a good way to secure friends & allies

I apologize for splattering. The abuse & murder here in ABQ hit hard tonight. Overload.

There are in fact many thoughts that don't need to be shared with everyone in the entire world, including your worst enemies and all cops, and it's worth rediscovering this.

My flags for dooming include ‘is this assuming that the forces of evil are all powerful and those of good are powerless? Does this assume that bad trends will continue or worsen indefinitely and good trends will reverse?’ Et al.

Ah, but who can forget the famous "We're all fucked, a bloo a bloo bloo bloo" speech by the great MLK?

The Your Hopes Are Too Damn High party

It’s like they’re attempting to predict the future that hasn’t happened yet and may never come to fruition.

That attack on Dolorous Edd was uncalled for.

I look at all the protests going on and thinking "How many of these people actually voted?" Them, I'd listen to over those that gave up the right to protest by not voting at all.

My husband's family (2 adults and 4 children) survived the Holocaust because a member of the Dutch resistance found hiding places for all of them. She broke the law and risked her life. She is honored at Yad Vashem along with many other righteous gentiles. Would you do the same?

Collective grief goes through stages of despair though.

fuck yeah and exactly. you can be a pessimist (i kind of am), but don't invite people into that shit. darkness doesn't need company... it already has enough. "even if i'm the last one standing" is the attitude.

Do you count apocalypse cults as part of “people who spend their time publicly bumming out everyone around them by emphasizing how totally fucked everything is”?

The worst is seeing my entire feed just flip over to variations on "we are so cooked," like a domino line.

I know you're writing about the current opposition to fascism, but this *also* sounds like certain vegans I could name.

Be like Han, not like 3PO

Preemptive capitulation demonstrates a fragile spirit

Seriously, shut the fuck up

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As a black person who is being erased by this administration I find it really hard not to be in a constant state of rage. The other side of me tries to find joy where I can. FYI I'd we dont fuck this shit up we are doomed.

This 👆 wins the internet 🎯

200% this. 300! 400!

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Strength and luck!

So what do those who are successful do?

Doom spiraling is for your group chat, not social media.

too much dooming has honestly become one of my insta-blocks. I need people who help me understand this moment and how to meet it; I don't need people who tell me I *can't*.

Bought an American flag to bring to my local protest on Saturday.

When people falter and feel despair I prefer to help them rise up, find hope, not pound them into the ground for it. This is about all of us, telling people to go fuck their feelings is what they otherside does.

The function of the doom crier is to warn of things that can be seen barreling down upon your country. They have now arrived, after years of warning, and nobody has done anything to stop it.

Morale is essential and since the default morale level for the Democrats at this time as well, we have to do everything we can to preserve it. That includes not doom-dumping all over your friends and allies and neighbors. We all are miserable currently, got it. You’re not the only one.

Someone shared this C.S. Lewis quote on here recently, and I think it really sums up the idea that we must still enjoy nature, beauty, culture, and our hobbies even in difficult times.

cry more bruce

I went out tonight and can confirm it did make me feel better. Don't get me wrong, I'm still pushing that depression boulder up the hill, but ya, I feel like 10% better

I never said they were. Rather I think it’s a mistake to imagine that they limit their opinions to this forum.

I realized not long ago that whenever a good thing happened my knee-jeek reaction was to go "eh, nothing will come of it" and since then I've been trying to at least frame it as a question (e.g., "how can we make sure this *does* matter?")

I’m becoming a big believer of this too. Even if you have to keep 100 new messages in drafts every day, keep the dooming to a dull roar please

Time to hit the streets!

Trying to find the line between dooming and despairing and just pointing out what's going on in stark terms can be hard. Posting about all the things we can do to fight and win is the antidote.

Point well taken.✌️

Endlessly dooming will not help us in the first case. Trying won't change anything either, but either way we are screwed. But if we give in to the fear and uncertainty, that seals our fate in either scenario. And that's not something I'm willing to do.

?? This isn't about you. This about people like you. Remember, that type of non positive response isn't appropriate, Faine.

People who rely on evidence free conclusions often tell me that

curious as to where they said any of that, because that's not how I read it. it's a good point - that doesn't mean it's wrong to feel despondent, but it also doesn't mean anyone else has to take it seriously.

I see these two every day. Mow their pen and fence line. Daphne on the left, Velma on the right. When I go in at dawn they’re always cuddled like this. happy happy

Agreed!

it’s very hard to hear that it’s not all about you and your feelings sometimes, isn’t it