Linguist, anthropologist, writer re: dating, marriage, population + the internet
📍Shikaakonk
2nd generation Etsy witch
3rd generation socialist
Friendly internet matchmaker for hire
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English/日本語/Русский/יידיש
they/she • あの奴 • она • זי
Hi new followers! Time for a new introduction post, if only because the link for my book is through a different publisher. (Yay media conglomeration? Wait no).
I'm a linguist and anthropologist. I used to be an academic, now I'm just writing. I wrote one book! I'm working on another.
ok I have done my mom labor, I now have 12 craft paper bags with cute little notebooks in them and little pumpkin notes saying "thank you for celebrating my birthday with me! ♡ Beastie"
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Someone should please hire me and my partner to improve Spider-man and His Amazing Friends (the new Disney+ one)
Because DISNEY MARVEL WHAT ARE YOU DOING why are you giving Zola a cute song and dance about how mean he is? This show needs STILT-MAN, we can fix this.
I realize we have never written comics OR television before shhhhhhhhhhh first time for everything. Don't tell me the Owl wouldn't be perfect for this.
My pal Danielle Koenig shared that her father Walter Koenig passed away last night at age 90. A performer whose kindness and warmth shone through the screen. He will be well remembered.
I could spend the rest of my life analysing this feedback sign in the local Home Bargains.
Did 'not happy' break from overuse? Was it taped over to ensure 100% positive feedback? Is the green 'b' in 'feedback' some kind of subliminal nudge? Is the duck tape indent because people still keep pressing?
There's a whiteboard outside my office where I ask random silly questions. This round, I asked them to draw something spooky. There are some real bangers on it right now.
And sometimes what's "healthy" for the average human is entirely useless. Some folks need high fat and protein (adrenal insufficiency I think?), the POTS gang need high salt, folks with low blood sugar need something sugary, folks who've burned a lot of energy will need something high energy...
Look it is fucked-up and unhelpful to expect a single person to do this (and yet we do it all the time), and it is even more fucked up and less helpful for human happiness to put this nonsense on a car.
a CAR.
I have survived my first preschool halloween event. The wee beastie's birthday is tomorrow. Navigating spooky season as a parent with 2 birthdays in the mix is AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
in a dark sort of irony, this too is gender:
we displace agency from men onto women as a way of excusing their abuse—what did you say to make him hit you?
likewise, the (male-coded) political right is always understood as being provoked by the (female & queer-coded) left
Be sure to regard anyone named John, Matthew, Luke, Mark, or Paul with equal suspicion since they are, after all, named for central literary figures in a violent global religion.
Sorry Paul McCartney.
Economic sociology and economic anthropology are entire specialties where sociologists and anthropologist both listen to and take on economics—and also study economic behaviors in terms economists never even imagine.
Get back to me when you come from a field that actually does get talked over.
The phonological crystalline entity is back, this time in typst, and parameterized, so you can mess with the angles if you want: typst.app/project/rP23...
I think the wee beastie (3 on Monday) has officially stopped napping.
I think in lieu of a nap we're still going to have "quiet time" in the afternoons because they seem to benefit from that and also I need it.
I need it.
Questions I have about WALL-E (2008):
• Did every human go to space?
• If not, what happened to the humans that remained on earth?
• What happened to all of the people on the starliners that weren't the Axiom?
It's bleak!!
Basically, I'm fine with an analysis of non-monogamy that engages with the ways in which its practices can be shaped according to patriarchal cultural assumptions and desires. But if that's inherently delegitimizing to the entire enterprise, I have some quite bad news for you about monogamy
The simple fact of the matter is that any form of relationship can be leveraged in coercive, dishonest, unethical, and messy ways, because there is no group of people incapable of being coercive, dishonest, unethical and messy. And sometimes people just want different things
And then funny thing is, "this data is public so we can grab it and scrape it" is something people have been contesting for at least 20 years in internet research ethics discussions
Whether or not ppl cutting off their parents is an actual phenomenon (is it, really?) or just clicky outrage bait, anti-estrangement is a paternalistic, socially regressive position — it’s so similar to being anti-divorce that the two are virtually indistinguishable.