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"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it" etc.

True. BUT I can't help but feel that this only applies some of the time. You can't disagree over human rights and civil rights, for instance. 🤷

I want to come in here and disagree with you because I don't feel the same way and have thoughts, but I also worry that's going to be viewed as me trolling and just doing it for engagement bait. Which, honestly, probably proves your point.

I don't think the social web was built to accommodate nuance, like, at all, sadly. It becomes so easy for small differences of belief to start feeling like uncrossable chasms even if you and I both want to make the world a better place but have different ideas about how to do it.

ooh this one because a lot of the vibe in those spaces was "we're all friends here so if we disagree, it's a disagreement in good faith with people I know are going to be cool about things" now it's disagreement with a really large population of strangers and that's frustrating!

and others don't accept social queues without direct engagement. So some harden their stance because all they feel is attacked and others become strident because they feel dismissed. It becomes difficult to parse conversation from noise so there is no reward for trying to have a good time.

Online engagement always feels like talking on stage to me, vs talking in person. The audience changes the tone. The oohs and ahhs and cheers and boos of onlookers make everything seem *DRAMATIC!* Everyday statements become *DECLARATIONS!* Differing opinions become *JABS!*

I just want to be able to say "I couldn't get into [show/movie/book/influencer/etc]" without having to explain my morality and prove it's for the right reasons. It's starting to bleed into reality from social media. I honestly don't even keep up with popular film anymore

This is why I wish every time you wanted to post something on the internet you had to wait a literal minute, then click the post button again. “You sure you mean this, buddy? You sure it’s worth sending a death threat because he thinks the 10th Doctor is overrated?”

It’s actually insane how Ad Hom is at the front of so many peoples toolkits, once they engage with it… I disengage, because I know they can’t in good faith engage with my point, so instead they’re trying to attack ME.

Had this conversation recently. Was introduced to a friend of a friend at a bar. Brought up Lost/Abrams Star Trek. I said Into Darkness is over hated bc of the marketing but it dissects Bush Jr era war ethics. Guy repeated how bad the movie was, told me I had no taste. Couldn’t tell me why though 🤷🏻‍♂️